Pet peeves that indicate childhood trauma

Being lied to - Being lied to can trigger the wound of being unable to trust. While people lie every day, the truth is we can't control someone else's willingness to tell the truth.

Being lied to - Knowing that you've been lied to can bring up feelings of being gaslit. This can remind you of a caregiver who was untrustworthy, which made you feel unsafe as a child.

Being ignored - Feeling ignored can be linked to the fear of abandonment or neglect, which is deeply ingrained from early life experiences.

Being ignored - For example, eating a meal with someone on their phone can trigger the wound of being ignored.

Being interrupted - Being interrupted can trigger the wound of being talked over by caregivers and treated like our words didn't matter.

Being interrupted - If you're unable to let it go, and instead become confrontational or even aggressive, it could be that it's activating an inner wound.

Waiting - For some, waiting isn't just a test of patience—it's a trigger echoing a history of uncertainty or instability.

Waiting - If you experienced unreliable care or lived in perpetual anticipation, then you might have developed intolerance to uncertainty, which is manifested while waiting.

Disorganization - People who grew up in chaotic environments may develop a strong dislike for disorder.

Disorganization - This could later develop into an obsessive need for order and control, turning a simple messy room into a potential stressor.

Criticism - If you as a child were constantly criticized or belittled, you might have developed an acute sensitivity to criticism.

Criticism - This pet peeve is reflective of the wound of inadequacy, which can resurface even with constructive feedback.

Loud noises - Aversion to loud noises may be more than a sensory dislike. It could be a trauma response from an aggressive environment.

Loud noises - Sudden, loud sounds might bring back the fear and anxiety associated with conflict or violence.

Passive-aggressive behavior - For those who grew up in homes with passive-aggressive caregivers, the same behavior in adulthood can be triggering.

Passive-aggressive behavior - This is because it takes you back to that feeling of being a small child unable to express discomfort.

Being rushed - This might originate in the feelings of pressure and high expectations in childhood.

Being rushed - The experience of constantly being hurried or pushed can create an adverse reaction to similar situations in adulthood.